Empty Arms' Miscarriage & Early Loss Support Group
WHEN: The second Wednesday of each month, from 7-9 PM.
WHERE: Florence Arts and Business Building, 140 Pine Street, Room 2B (basement level), in Florence, MA. (There is plenty of free parking behind the building.)
WHAT: This group is free & open to all families who have experienced loss of a baby by miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, or termination for medical reasons.
ABOUT THE FACILITATORS:
Lexi Walters Wright suffered two miscarriages in 2008 and 2009, and found support to be invaluable during this time. She's grateful to be able to extend this support to others: She has been trained in compassionate caregiving by Share, Inc., and is versed in the MotherWoman Support Group Model. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org
Brandi Gillen Hing: After I suffered 2 second trimester miscarriages, one in 2009 and one in 2010, I felt very lost and alone. I found myself gravitating to people who had similar experiences, and looking into a future career for mental health support. I learned that sharing my experience with others helped lift some of the heaviness up off of me.
I met Carol in 2016 shortly after the birth of my second living child, and was instantly elated to find out that Empty Arms existed! There was a place, other than chance meetings with other bereaved parents (some of whom became my closest friends), where the truths I lived with every day as a bereaved parent could be talked about. I immediately wanted to be involved, and so set out on a path of becoming a facilitator for Empty Arms. So here I am a year later hoping to make safe the discussions that are hard, and hoping to be a supportive listener to anyone in need.
Below, you will read the principles for the Empty Arms Miscarriage Support Group meetings. Our principles are the best way to communicate the shared values that are upheld at group meetings, as well as to give you a sense of what to expect from participants during the course of a given evening. Strict confidentiality is expected from all group members, and participation in the discussion is optional.
Miscarriage Support Group Principles
At Empty Arms, we know that miscarriage is an isolating and devastating experience. We here support those who’ve suffered this loss by naming the incredible challenges we’re experiencing, knowing that this group is one of the few places where we can speak the truth about the depth of our emotions and the details of our experience. For some of us here tonight, this may be the only place in our lives where we can talk honestly: one place no one will tell us we’re feeling too much, not enough, we should be over it, etc. Whatever you’re feeling is true for you, and we will hear and validate you for that feeling, no matter how deep or difficult it is.
Healing comes through speaking the truth about our journey in order to understand what we’ve been through and what may lie ahead. By sharing our experiences of miscarriage, they become a part of who we are--and that allows us to move forward.
We encourage you to identify with each other’s feelings, rather than compare details. Each person’s journey has been uniquely challenging, but we have all lost a baby—or babies—we imagined would be with us through our lifetime. We all have the right to grieve, and the ability to support one another as we do so.
Grief takes many forms. Deep sadness, anger, rage, confusion, longing, and even a sense of peace all can be normal parts of grieving. You may wish to share a little or a lot. However you’re feeling, whatever’s real for you tonight, whatever the specifics of your story, you are welcome here. Each of us has the strength, the wisdom and the courage to heal from our loss.